Vile.

That’s it. Nothing more. Just vile.

Read your works and take some SERIOUS introspection. Think about what you’re saying. You tried to force someone to have sex with you because <reasons> but it’s OK because <excuses>.

Explain to me how that’s ANY different than a man saying he raped a woman, physically assaulted her because … he needed sex. But it’s OK, he says, it’s OK he raped the woman because she was dressed in clothes that made it seem like she liked sex. Or because he’s doing what “men” do by showing dominance.

If you can read the paragraph above and think it’s OK, then I don’t know what to say. It’s NEVER ok to rape someone. No matter what your feelings, dynamics, situation were. If you find yourself with your needs not being met, get therapy, change your situation, accept the situation… anything other than raping someone. I’m sorry you were in a bad situation. But you’re an adult (I assume) with a requirement to make mature, adult decisions.

It’s stunningly mind boggling this requires explanation, but there you go.

It’s one thing to make a mistake and own that mistake with grace. It’s another thing to aggressively defend your mistake with the same old tried and true rape excuses we’ve heard from/about men who rape for decades.

That’s literally all I have to say on this topic, but I can’t possibly think how to make this more clear.